How to spot a predator
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Every time I hear of a good hearted individual who has been exploited, taken advantage of, and preyed upon, I feel a burning and...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
He Deserves More Than Your Pity
Pity Love… Some of you are out there thinking… “I can’t leave because he won’t know what to do without me” “I don’t know what he would do...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
We Have A Problem With Men's Violence
Ahmad Al Aliwi Alissa killed 10 people on March 22, 2021 at a market in Boulder CO. 21 year old male, no criminal record, motivation...


Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
The Art of Dehumanization
“Anyone who isn’t a Patriot is a Traitor.” “Anyone who supports Trump is a White Supremacist.” “I refuse to unify with THEM.” We are...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
The Illusion of Easy Exits
“There’s always a time to easily exit a relationship. It’s during those bad times that define a true power couple.” I read this comment a...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
Let's Talk About Trust
“I don’t know how to learn to trust again.” I hear this OVER and OVER. Then I hear some version of desperately trying to figure out how...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
You Say You Want A Man Who....
You say you want a man who knows how to treat you well, yet you joke about men being so oblivious and dense they need “training”. You say...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
When You're the Exception
"None of the other women he’s been with could handle him.” “No one has taken the time to love him the way he needs.” “He’s an unruly...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
It's Time We Take Responsibility
When a woman shows up with a black eye, do you look for a reason to excuse his violence? When a woman is embarrassed about the verbal...


Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
We Fight For Every Woman
My abuser could smell a powerful woman from a mile away. He knew my exposure to her intense, free spirited independence might make me...


Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
Let's Talk About Loyalty
We traditionally see loyalty as a good thing. It’s one of the most POWERFUL values of the “good girl” identity. “I am GOOD because I am...


Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
Love Shouldn't Be Transactional
There are many reasons I have heard women use to justify their own mistreatment. There were many ways I myself justified relationships...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
Boundaries
Often when people start to wake up to the idea of boundary setting, it is overwhelming. What boundaries do I set? Am I really allowed to...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
You Were Created for MORE
You were created for more than having a relationship. Yet, many of us women live as if it is our sole objective. Like we are incomplete...


Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
Settling is Always Based in Fear
“You can’t always get what you want.” “You have to be realistic.” “You just have to take what you can get.” “Better to play it safe.”...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
Relationships Require Settling?
My whole life, I have heard people say “relationships require compromise”, “every relationship requires a degree of settling”, and “you...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
Stand Tall & Own Your Boundaries
“You’re such a buzz kill.” These were the words used to describe me, after I told a guest substances were not allowed in my home. These...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
My Resentment Is One of My Most Profound Gifts
My resentment is one of my most profound gifts. Yep. I didn’t mistype that. My resentment shows me where I am compromising my standards...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
Let's Talk About Manifestation
“If I just ‘manifest better’ my relationship will improve.” “People around me are abusive because they are a reflection of my inner...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
You Are Worthy of Boundaries
Don’t ever expect people who are taking advantage of you to celebrate your boundaries. They will be the ones who will bring up ALL the...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
You Are Not FRAGILE.
I refuse to treat you as fragile. I understand you have been through hell. I understand you have been cruelly kicked down and belittled....


Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
When Does It Get Easier?
When do I get to stop having these difficult conversations? When will people stop trying to break into my life, creating chaos? When will...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
My Thanks to Divine Kings
Many men find my message threatening. They don’t want their partners following me. They don’t want their partners reading my work. They...


Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
Violence is Not Unpredictable
We like to think red flags are mysterious. Hard to spot until it’s too late. Evasive. I disagree. I used to believe I “couldn’t know” if...

Jillian Aurora
- Jul 14, 2022
PROMISES Are Not GUARANTEES
“He VOWED to be married FOREVER.” “He CAN’T just walk away. He PROMISED.” “He HAS to change because he PROMISED.” “He HAS to stop...