Abuse

How to spot a predator

Every time I hear of a good hearted individual who has been exploited, taken advantage of, and preyed upon, I feel a burning and...

If I Can Recover, You Can Too.

This last week, I passed my 10 year anniversary in the AlAnon program. This is a testament to the woman who walked through those doors....

When You're the Exception

"None of the other women he’s been with could handle him.” “No one has taken the time to love him the way he needs.” “He’s an unruly...

It's Time We Take Responsibility

When a woman shows up with a black eye, do you look for a reason to excuse his violence? When a woman is embarrassed about the verbal...

We Fight For Every Woman

My abuser could smell a powerful woman from a mile away. He knew my exposure to her intense, free spirited independence might make me...

You get to set whatever the fuck BOUNDARIES you want.

“I don’t drink.” It amazes me the amount of discomfort these words cause. Most of the time, I simply forget drinking is a normal part of...

Privacy is a DANGEROUS priority

A few years ago, I was shocked to find out a friend of mine had been murdered. Stabbed to death by her boyfriend and left in her bed....

But... MONEY

“You’ll never travel without me.” “You’ll never be able to get nice things without me.” “You like this home? You’ll never live in a place...

Healing Does Not Happen Through HATRED

I watch a LOT of women try to heal from a toxic relationship through hatred. They demonize their previous partners, calling them names,...

You Cannot LOVE Yourself and BETRAY Yourself at the Same Time.

“But the majority of the time he’s good to me.” “It’s only a small portion of time that he yells and breaks things.” “He only calls me...