Codependency

If I Can Recover, You Can Too.

This last week, I passed my 10 year anniversary in the AlAnon program. This is a testament to the woman who walked through those doors....

He Deserves More Than Your Pity

Pity Love… Some of you are out there thinking… “I can’t leave because he won’t know what to do without me” “I don’t know what he would do...

The Illusion of Easy Exits

“There’s always a time to easily exit a relationship. It’s during those bad times that define a true power couple.” I read this comment a...

When You're the Exception

"None of the other women he’s been with could handle him.” “No one has taken the time to love him the way he needs.” “He’s an unruly...

You Can't Will It To Be True

“He finally got his big wake up call.” “He has to learn his lesson now.” “There is no way he will drink again after this.” “He won’t hurt...

Love Shouldn't Be Transactional

There are many reasons I have heard women use to justify their own mistreatment. There were many ways I myself justified relationships...

Boundaries

Often when people start to wake up to the idea of boundary setting, it is overwhelming. What boundaries do I set? Am I really allowed to...

Settling is Always Based in Fear

“You can’t always get what you want.” “You have to be realistic.” “You just have to take what you can get.” “Better to play it safe.”...

We All Struggle With Boundaries Sometimes

You might be surprised to hear I still struggle with setting boundaries. Sometimes, desperately so. Yes, the same Jillian Aurora who’s...

My Resentment Is One of My Most Profound Gifts

My resentment is one of my most profound gifts. Yep. I didn’t mistype that. My resentment shows me where I am compromising my standards...