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Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Accountability is LOVE

If I say I’m committed to being honest and you catch me lying, DON’T be PATIENT with me. If I say I’m committed to being real and you...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Warrior Up Goddess

“I’m an empath so I’ve just resigned myself to the fact I attract narcissists.” I saw this comment on social media the other day and it...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

What If It's My Fault?

“But what about my part?” “It takes two to create a bad marriage.” “I haven’t always been the perfect partner.” I hear these words often,...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Safety Is Not a MYSTERY

How do I know if someone is safe and worthy of my trust? Is it a feeling? Is it knowing if someone is lying or genuine? Is it body...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Stop BABYING Others

We all get curveballs. This week has been tough. Old wounds and programming have flared up for me. Old coping skills have begged to...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

The Wound of Abandonment

I recently got a nostalgic trip down memory lane with my old victimy wound of abandonment. In the past, I chose into relationships where...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

SECRECY Perpetuates ABUSE

"You destroyed my life when you got that restraining order.” “If you hadn’t told everyone about our private business, we’d still have a...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
3 min

NO ONE is Exempt From Bad Behavior

Racists are good people. Sexists are good people. Addicts are good people. Abusers are good people. Murders are good people. IF THIS...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

You Don't Need More Information

“I don’t need help. I already know what I need to do. I just need to do it.” So often, it is our own criticism and judgment of ourselves...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

ALL People Do Bad Things

The Monsters we fear: The rapists. The child molesters. The addicts and alcoholics. The greedy. The violent abusers. The power...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
1 min

In the name of love....

“She drives me crazy but I can’t leave her alone because I love her too much.” “I tell him what he needs to do because I love him so...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Call out SUPPRESSION for what it is.

"Stop shaming me.” “It’s too triggering for me to talk about.” “I’ll end up drinking if you talk to me about that.” “Stop focusing on...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

How to spot a predator

Every time I hear of a good hearted individual who has been exploited, taken advantage of, and preyed upon, I feel a burning and...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

He Deserves More Than Your Pity

Pity Love… Some of you are out there thinking… “I can’t leave because he won’t know what to do without me” “I don’t know what he would do...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

We Have A Problem With Men's Violence

Ahmad Al Aliwi Alissa killed 10 people on March 22, 2021 at a market in Boulder CO. 21 year old male, no criminal record, motivation...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

The Art of Dehumanization

“Anyone who isn’t a Patriot is a Traitor.” “Anyone who supports Trump is a White Supremacist.” “I refuse to unify with THEM.” We are...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

The Illusion of Easy Exits

“There’s always a time to easily exit a relationship. It’s during those bad times that define a true power couple.” I read this comment a...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Let's Talk About Trust

“I don’t know how to learn to trust again.” I hear this OVER and OVER. Then I hear some version of desperately trying to figure out how...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Say You Want A Man Who....

You say you want a man who knows how to treat you well, yet you joke about men being so oblivious and dense they need “training”. You say...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

When You're the Exception

"None of the other women he’s been with could handle him.” “No one has taken the time to love him the way he needs.” “He’s an unruly...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

It's Time We Take Responsibility

When a woman shows up with a black eye, do you look for a reason to excuse his violence? When a woman is embarrassed about the verbal...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

We Fight For Every Woman

My abuser could smell a powerful woman from a mile away. He knew my exposure to her intense, free spirited independence might make me...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Let's Talk About Loyalty

We traditionally see loyalty as a good thing. It’s one of the most POWERFUL values of the “good girl” identity. “I am GOOD because I am...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Love Shouldn't Be Transactional

There are many reasons I have heard women use to justify their own mistreatment. There were many ways I myself justified relationships...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Boundaries

Often when people start to wake up to the idea of boundary setting, it is overwhelming. What boundaries do I set? Am I really allowed to...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Were Created for MORE

You were created for more than having a relationship. Yet, many of us women live as if it is our sole objective. Like we are incomplete...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Settling is Always Based in Fear

“You can’t always get what you want.” “You have to be realistic.” “You just have to take what you can get.” “Better to play it safe.”...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Relationships Require Settling?

My whole life, I have heard people say “relationships require compromise”, “every relationship requires a degree of settling”, and “you...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Stand Tall & Own Your Boundaries

“You’re such a buzz kill.” These were the words used to describe me, after I told a guest substances were not allowed in my home. These...

My Resentment Is One of My Most Profound Gifts

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

My Resentment Is One of My Most Profound Gifts

My resentment is one of my most profound gifts. Yep. I didn’t mistype that. My resentment shows me where I am compromising my standards...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Let's Talk About Manifestation

“If I just ‘manifest better’ my relationship will improve.” “People around me are abusive because they are a reflection of my inner...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Are Worthy of Boundaries

Don’t ever expect people who are taking advantage of you to celebrate your boundaries. They will be the ones who will bring up ALL the...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Are Not FRAGILE.

I refuse to treat you as fragile. I understand you have been through hell. I understand you have been cruelly kicked down and belittled....

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

When Does It Get Easier?

When do I get to stop having these difficult conversations? When will people stop trying to break into my life, creating chaos? When will...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

My Thanks to Divine Kings

Many men find my message threatening. They don’t want their partners following me. They don’t want their partners reading my work. They...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Violence is Not Unpredictable

We like to think red flags are mysterious. Hard to spot until it’s too late. Evasive. I disagree. I used to believe I “couldn’t know” if...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

PROMISES Are Not GUARANTEES

“He VOWED to be married FOREVER.” “He CAN’T just walk away. He PROMISED.” “He HAS to change because he PROMISED.” “He HAS to stop...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Accountability is LOVE

If I say I’m committed to being honest and you catch me lying, DON’T be PATIENT with me. If I say I’m committed to being real and you...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

FORGIVENESS

“Be the bigger person. Forgive.” “Why should I be the one to forgive when I’m the victim?!” “Staying angry is like drinking poison and...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Are You a Caregiver, Or a Partner?

“You take such good care of him.” “I don’t know what he would do without you.” “I’m so glad you’re in his life to keep him straightened...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Our "Politeness" is Killing Us

As women, we have been deeply conditioned to be polite at all costs. A man compliments you? Smile and say “thank you”. A man offers help?...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Know the Red Flag Predictions

Many years of my life, I thought domestic violence was black and white. It was easy to spot. I knew I’d never be a victim, because I...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

EMBRACE your RESENTMENT

“How do I stop feeling mad at my partner for lying to me?” “How do I stop feeling resentful when my partner chooses a substance over me?”...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

But What If They Think I'm Difficult?

I’m a SNOB. And I’m ok with that. Back in the day, I avoided the perception of being a snob. High maintenance. Picky. Difficult....

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

SUFFERING does not equal LOVE.

“Everyone else is a fucking POSER. I care about you for REAL.” “I won’t be like everyone else who has abandoned you.” We have often...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Warrior Up Goddess

“I’m an empath so I’ve just resigned myself to the fact I attract narcissists.” I saw this comment on social media the other day and it...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

The making of an Unapologetic Woman

How I, Jillian Aurora - an average woman - became a Goddess. I walked through the fires and the darkness. I braved lonely, confusing...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

It is a PRIVILEGE to experience pain

Living loyal to yourself and your calling does not mean living pain and sorrow free. It does not mean being exempt from negative...