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What Are Your Pity Parties Trying to Tell You?

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

What Are Your Pity Parties Trying to Tell You?

I had a meltdown last night. I often don’t allow myself the permission to break down, because I tell myself I don’t have the right. I...

We All Need a Little Grace in Order to Grow

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

We All Need a Little Grace in Order to Grow

It’s become really “cool” and acceptable to self-righteously condemn those that don’t agree with us. It’s never been easier to justify....

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

The Art of Dehumanization

“Anyone who isn’t a Patriot is a Traitor.” “Anyone who supports Trump is a White Supremacist.” “I refuse to unify with THEM.” We are...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

WHAT IF?

It is such a scary thing to burn away EVERYTHING that does not match your 100% FUCK YES’s. Taking that jump and burning down: The...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
1 min

Toxic Positivity

We have learned to have an intolerance for unpleasant truth. In the era of “positive thinking”, we have conveniently learned to excuse...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
1 min

Seeking the Truth is a Lonely Journey

The harder you seek the truth, the more alone you will find your path. For the truths you find will be intolerable to many. It will burn...

We All Struggle With Boundaries Sometimes

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

We All Struggle With Boundaries Sometimes

You might be surprised to hear I still struggle with setting boundaries. Sometimes, desperately so. Yes, the same Jillian Aurora who’s...

Your Relationships Do Not Determine Your Worth

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Your Relationships Do Not Determine Your Worth

“She’s been married three times.” “She could’ve tried more to save the marriage.” “She needs to learn how to choose better men.” “If she...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Let's Talk About Manifestation

“If I just ‘manifest better’ my relationship will improve.” “People around me are abusive because they are a reflection of my inner...

Your Excuses are as Real as You Say They Are

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
3 min

Your Excuses are as Real as You Say They Are

I find it interesting, some people think I have the world and other people wonder how I could possibly be happy living so simply. Some...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
3 min

Violence is Not Unpredictable

We like to think red flags are mysterious. Hard to spot until it’s too late. Evasive. I disagree. I used to believe I “couldn’t know” if...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

PROMISES Are Not GUARANTEES

“He VOWED to be married FOREVER.” “He CAN’T just walk away. He PROMISED.” “He HAS to change because he PROMISED.” “He HAS to stop...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Accountability is LOVE

If I say I’m committed to being honest and you catch me lying, DON’T be PATIENT with me. If I say I’m committed to being real and you...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

FORGIVENESS

“Be the bigger person. Forgive.” “Why should I be the one to forgive when I’m the victim?!” “Staying angry is like drinking poison and...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Are You a Caregiver, Or a Partner?

“You take such good care of him.” “I don’t know what he would do without you.” “I’m so glad you’re in his life to keep him straightened...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

One YES will require 1000 NO's.

You know that thing you really really want? That thing your heart LONGS for? Maybe it’s a relationship defined by mutuality, respect,...

Surround yourself with people who FEED YOUR FIRE

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Surround yourself with people who FEED YOUR FIRE

I stopped hanging out with polite, nice women, who were concerned about their image and reputation. I stopped hanging out with people who...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

But What If They Think I'm Difficult?

I’m a SNOB. And I’m ok with that. Back in the day, I avoided the perception of being a snob. High maintenance. Picky. Difficult....

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Condemnation Solves Nothing

All throughout this year, I have been pressured to pick a political side. And I have been called every name in the book when I have...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Privacy is a DANGEROUS priority

A few years ago, I was shocked to find out a friend of mine had been murdered. Stabbed to death by her boyfriend and left in her bed....

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

How to spot a predator

Every time I hear of a good hearted individual who has been exploited, taken advantage of, and preyed upon, I feel a burning and...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

He Deserves More Than Your Pity

Pity Love… Some of you are out there thinking… “I can’t leave because he won’t know what to do without me” “I don’t know what he would do...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

We Have A Problem With Men's Violence

Ahmad Al Aliwi Alissa killed 10 people on March 22, 2021 at a market in Boulder CO. 21 year old male, no criminal record, motivation...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

The Art of Dehumanization

“Anyone who isn’t a Patriot is a Traitor.” “Anyone who supports Trump is a White Supremacist.” “I refuse to unify with THEM.” We are...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

The Illusion of Easy Exits

“There’s always a time to easily exit a relationship. It’s during those bad times that define a true power couple.” I read this comment a...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Let's Talk About Trust

“I don’t know how to learn to trust again.” I hear this OVER and OVER. Then I hear some version of desperately trying to figure out how...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Say You Want A Man Who....

You say you want a man who knows how to treat you well, yet you joke about men being so oblivious and dense they need “training”. You say...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

When You're the Exception

"None of the other women he’s been with could handle him.” “No one has taken the time to love him the way he needs.” “He’s an unruly...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

It's Time We Take Responsibility

When a woman shows up with a black eye, do you look for a reason to excuse his violence? When a woman is embarrassed about the verbal...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

We Fight For Every Woman

My abuser could smell a powerful woman from a mile away. He knew my exposure to her intense, free spirited independence might make me...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Let's Talk About Loyalty

We traditionally see loyalty as a good thing. It’s one of the most POWERFUL values of the “good girl” identity. “I am GOOD because I am...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Love Shouldn't Be Transactional

There are many reasons I have heard women use to justify their own mistreatment. There were many ways I myself justified relationships...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Boundaries

Often when people start to wake up to the idea of boundary setting, it is overwhelming. What boundaries do I set? Am I really allowed to...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Were Created for MORE

You were created for more than having a relationship. Yet, many of us women live as if it is our sole objective. Like we are incomplete...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Settling is Always Based in Fear

“You can’t always get what you want.” “You have to be realistic.” “You just have to take what you can get.” “Better to play it safe.”...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Relationships Require Settling?

My whole life, I have heard people say “relationships require compromise”, “every relationship requires a degree of settling”, and “you...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Stand Tall & Own Your Boundaries

“You’re such a buzz kill.” These were the words used to describe me, after I told a guest substances were not allowed in my home. These...

My Resentment Is One of My Most Profound Gifts