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Jul 14, 2022
3 min

If I Can Recover, You Can Too.

This last week, I passed my 10 year anniversary in the AlAnon program. This is a testament to the woman who walked through those doors....

What Are Your Pity Parties Trying to Tell You?

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

What Are Your Pity Parties Trying to Tell You?

I had a meltdown last night. I often don’t allow myself the permission to break down, because I tell myself I don’t have the right. I...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Hell YESES Are the Only Way for Me

If I have to convince you to join my program, you’re not a fit for the program. If I have to explain to you why you should spend money on...

Your Relationships Do Not Determine Your Worth

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Your Relationships Do Not Determine Your Worth

“She’s been married three times.” “She could’ve tried more to save the marriage.” “She needs to learn how to choose better men.” “If she...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

You Are Worthy of Boundaries

Don’t ever expect people who are taking advantage of you to celebrate your boundaries. They will be the ones who will bring up ALL the...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

You Are Not FRAGILE.

I refuse to treat you as fragile. I understand you have been through hell. I understand you have been cruelly kicked down and belittled....

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
1 min

When Does It Get Easier?

When do I get to stop having these difficult conversations? When will people stop trying to break into my life, creating chaos? When will...

Your Excuses are as Real as You Say They Are

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
3 min

Your Excuses are as Real as You Say They Are

I find it interesting, some people think I have the world and other people wonder how I could possibly be happy living so simply. Some...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
1 min

The making of an Unapologetic Woman

How I, Jillian Aurora - an average woman - became a Goddess. I walked through the fires and the darkness. I braved lonely, confusing...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

It is a PRIVILEGE to experience pain

Living loyal to yourself and your calling does not mean living pain and sorrow free. It does not mean being exempt from negative...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

But... MONEY

“You’ll never travel without me.” “You’ll never be able to get nice things without me.” “You like this home? You’ll never live in a place...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
3 min

Love Letter to Yourself

You, Love, deserve the world and more. Every desire. Every heart melting experience. Every passion that lights your soul on fire. Every...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

I birth endings.

Over the last year, I have had the clarity my life’s calling is helping people through the WINTER seasons of life. I help people birth...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
4 min

Necessary Endings Require Courage

My job is walking women through their winter seasons of life. It’s holding their hands through the grief of letting go and gut wrenching...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Healing Does Not Happen Through HATRED

I watch a LOT of women try to heal from a toxic relationship through hatred. They demonize their previous partners, calling them names,...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
3 min

Burn All The Bridges

One year ago today, I made a terrifying yet liberating decision. I quit my JOB. I left what had been my safety net. I let go of my “plan...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Tolerating Abuse

It never ceases to amaze me the amount of pain and absolutely outrageous behaviors I watch women tolerate for YEARS. It’s an endurance...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

FEEL it ALL and RISE

"Your story isn’t really that unique.” “What’s the big deal? Everybody gets divorced.” “You’re just another person being dramatic on...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
1 min

YOUR WAY is the RIGHT WAY for YOU

They will tell you you can’t. You can’t do it that way. You can’t say it that way. You can’t have those requirements. You can’t believe...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
3 min

Recovery from Self Betrayal

Next month, I will be celebrating 9 years in the AlAnon recovery program. I cannot say how valuable the program has been to me. It...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

How to spot a predator

Every time I hear of a good hearted individual who has been exploited, taken advantage of, and preyed upon, I feel a burning and...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

He Deserves More Than Your Pity

Pity Love… Some of you are out there thinking… “I can’t leave because he won’t know what to do without me” “I don’t know what he would do...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

We Have A Problem With Men's Violence

Ahmad Al Aliwi Alissa killed 10 people on March 22, 2021 at a market in Boulder CO. 21 year old male, no criminal record, motivation...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

The Art of Dehumanization

“Anyone who isn’t a Patriot is a Traitor.” “Anyone who supports Trump is a White Supremacist.” “I refuse to unify with THEM.” We are...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

The Illusion of Easy Exits

“There’s always a time to easily exit a relationship. It’s during those bad times that define a true power couple.” I read this comment a...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Let's Talk About Trust

“I don’t know how to learn to trust again.” I hear this OVER and OVER. Then I hear some version of desperately trying to figure out how...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Say You Want A Man Who....

You say you want a man who knows how to treat you well, yet you joke about men being so oblivious and dense they need “training”. You say...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

When You're the Exception

"None of the other women he’s been with could handle him.” “No one has taken the time to love him the way he needs.” “He’s an unruly...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

It's Time We Take Responsibility

When a woman shows up with a black eye, do you look for a reason to excuse his violence? When a woman is embarrassed about the verbal...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

We Fight For Every Woman

My abuser could smell a powerful woman from a mile away. He knew my exposure to her intense, free spirited independence might make me...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Let's Talk About Loyalty

We traditionally see loyalty as a good thing. It’s one of the most POWERFUL values of the “good girl” identity. “I am GOOD because I am...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Love Shouldn't Be Transactional

There are many reasons I have heard women use to justify their own mistreatment. There were many ways I myself justified relationships...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Boundaries

Often when people start to wake up to the idea of boundary setting, it is overwhelming. What boundaries do I set? Am I really allowed to...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Were Created for MORE

You were created for more than having a relationship. Yet, many of us women live as if it is our sole objective. Like we are incomplete...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Settling is Always Based in Fear

“You can’t always get what you want.” “You have to be realistic.” “You just have to take what you can get.” “Better to play it safe.”...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Relationships Require Settling?

My whole life, I have heard people say “relationships require compromise”, “every relationship requires a degree of settling”, and “you...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Stand Tall & Own Your Boundaries

“You’re such a buzz kill.” These were the words used to describe me, after I told a guest substances were not allowed in my home. These...

My Resentment Is One of My Most Profound Gifts