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Jul 14, 2022
3 min

How It's Supposed To Be

Sometimes I forget the eccentric and complicated life I have chosen to walk and am reminded when pieces of my past show up. I have never...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
1 min

I Am My Own

March 1st, my name legally changed, for the fourth and final time. It changes to something with meaning. It is something I hand picked,...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
1 min

Settling is Always Based in Fear

“You can’t always get what you want.” “You have to be realistic.” “You just have to take what you can get.” “Better to play it safe.”...

My Resentment Is One of My Most Profound Gifts

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
1 min

My Resentment Is One of My Most Profound Gifts

My resentment is one of my most profound gifts. Yep. I didn’t mistype that. My resentment shows me where I am compromising my standards...

MAKE A SCENE. It’s what you are here for.

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
1 min

MAKE A SCENE. It’s what you are here for.

"Why can’t I just be quieter?” “Why can’t I just be less intense?” “My laugh is so annoying.” “My stretch marks are so ugly.” “I wish I...

You have NEVER made a mistake in your life

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
1 min

You have NEVER made a mistake in your life

What if you could trust that your decisions in the past were the EXACT right decisions for you? Even if they caused pain. Even if your...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

The RULES Won't Keep You Safe

When I left my marriage, I pondered the idea of how to make sure this NEVER HAPPENED AGAIN. How to stay safe. How to ensure a lasting...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

All The Ways We BETRAY Ourselves

I used to have a habit of not really asking that much. Not being too inconvenient. Not being too demanding. Not ever needing that much....

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
1 min

You Get to Give Yourself Permission

Give yourself permission to want what you want. Trust it. Do you ever judge yourself for wanting something? Like, “WHY do I want THAT??”...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

How to spot a predator

Every time I hear of a good hearted individual who has been exploited, taken advantage of, and preyed upon, I feel a burning and...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

He Deserves More Than Your Pity

Pity Love… Some of you are out there thinking… “I can’t leave because he won’t know what to do without me” “I don’t know what he would do...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

We Have A Problem With Men's Violence

Ahmad Al Aliwi Alissa killed 10 people on March 22, 2021 at a market in Boulder CO. 21 year old male, no criminal record, motivation...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

The Art of Dehumanization

“Anyone who isn’t a Patriot is a Traitor.” “Anyone who supports Trump is a White Supremacist.” “I refuse to unify with THEM.” We are...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

The Illusion of Easy Exits

“There’s always a time to easily exit a relationship. It’s during those bad times that define a true power couple.” I read this comment a...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Let's Talk About Trust

“I don’t know how to learn to trust again.” I hear this OVER and OVER. Then I hear some version of desperately trying to figure out how...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Say You Want A Man Who....

You say you want a man who knows how to treat you well, yet you joke about men being so oblivious and dense they need “training”. You say...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

When You're the Exception

"None of the other women he’s been with could handle him.” “No one has taken the time to love him the way he needs.” “He’s an unruly...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

It's Time We Take Responsibility

When a woman shows up with a black eye, do you look for a reason to excuse his violence? When a woman is embarrassed about the verbal...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

We Fight For Every Woman

My abuser could smell a powerful woman from a mile away. He knew my exposure to her intense, free spirited independence might make me...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Let's Talk About Loyalty

We traditionally see loyalty as a good thing. It’s one of the most POWERFUL values of the “good girl” identity. “I am GOOD because I am...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Love Shouldn't Be Transactional

There are many reasons I have heard women use to justify their own mistreatment. There were many ways I myself justified relationships...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Boundaries

Often when people start to wake up to the idea of boundary setting, it is overwhelming. What boundaries do I set? Am I really allowed to...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Were Created for MORE

You were created for more than having a relationship. Yet, many of us women live as if it is our sole objective. Like we are incomplete...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Settling is Always Based in Fear

“You can’t always get what you want.” “You have to be realistic.” “You just have to take what you can get.” “Better to play it safe.”...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Relationships Require Settling?

My whole life, I have heard people say “relationships require compromise”, “every relationship requires a degree of settling”, and “you...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Stand Tall & Own Your Boundaries

“You’re such a buzz kill.” These were the words used to describe me, after I told a guest substances were not allowed in my home. These...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

My Resentment Is One of My Most Profound Gifts

My resentment is one of my most profound gifts. Yep. I didn’t mistype that. My resentment shows me where I am compromising my standards...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Let's Talk About Manifestation

“If I just ‘manifest better’ my relationship will improve.” “People around me are abusive because they are a reflection of my inner...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Are Worthy of Boundaries

Don’t ever expect people who are taking advantage of you to celebrate your boundaries. They will be the ones who will bring up ALL the...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Are Not FRAGILE.

I refuse to treat you as fragile. I understand you have been through hell. I understand you have been cruelly kicked down and belittled....

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

When Does It Get Easier?

When do I get to stop having these difficult conversations? When will people stop trying to break into my life, creating chaos? When will...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

My Thanks to Divine Kings

Many men find my message threatening. They don’t want their partners following me. They don’t want their partners reading my work. They...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Violence is Not Unpredictable

We like to think red flags are mysterious. Hard to spot until it’s too late. Evasive. I disagree. I used to believe I “couldn’t know” if...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

PROMISES Are Not GUARANTEES

“He VOWED to be married FOREVER.” “He CAN’T just walk away. He PROMISED.” “He HAS to change because he PROMISED.” “He HAS to stop...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Accountability is LOVE

If I say I’m committed to being honest and you catch me lying, DON’T be PATIENT with me. If I say I’m committed to being real and you...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

FORGIVENESS

“Be the bigger person. Forgive.” “Why should I be the one to forgive when I’m the victim?!” “Staying angry is like drinking poison and...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Are You a Caregiver, Or a Partner?

“You take such good care of him.” “I don’t know what he would do without you.” “I’m so glad you’re in his life to keep him straightened...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Our "Politeness" is Killing Us

As women, we have been deeply conditioned to be polite at all costs. A man compliments you? Smile and say “thank you”. A man offers help?...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Know the Red Flag Predictions

Many years of my life, I thought domestic violence was black and white. It was easy to spot. I knew I’d never be a victim, because I...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

EMBRACE your RESENTMENT

“How do I stop feeling mad at my partner for lying to me?” “How do I stop feeling resentful when my partner chooses a substance over me?”...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

But What If They Think I'm Difficult?

I’m a SNOB. And I’m ok with that. Back in the day, I avoided the perception of being a snob. High maintenance. Picky. Difficult....

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

SUFFERING does not equal LOVE.

“Everyone else is a fucking POSER. I care about you for REAL.” “I won’t be like everyone else who has abandoned you.” We have often...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Warrior Up Goddess

“I’m an empath so I’ve just resigned myself to the fact I attract narcissists.” I saw this comment on social media the other day and it...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

The making of an Unapologetic Woman

How I, Jillian Aurora - an average woman - became a Goddess. I walked through the fires and the darkness. I braved lonely, confusing...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

It is a PRIVILEGE to experience pain

Living loyal to yourself and your calling does not mean living pain and sorrow free. It does not mean being exempt from negative...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Reclaim Your Authority

“My husband won’t let me wear that.” “My partner won’t let me cut my hair.” “My spouse won’t let me compete in a fitness competition.”...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Celebrate Those Who Are REPULSED By You

The other day, I informed someone my home was an alcohol free space and that he was not welcome to bring his beer inside. For a moment,...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Are You Really "Over It"?

If I had a nickel for every time I heard a woman say she “just couldn’t do this anymore”, I’d be retired. I remember many moments like...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

What If It's My Fault?

“But what about my part?” “It takes two to create a bad marriage.” “I haven’t always been the perfect partner.” I hear these words often,...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Aren't a Slot Machine

“I feel guilty I don’t love him back.” “He’s been so nice to me.” “He’s been such a gentleman.” “He’s bought me lots of nice things.”...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

The Illusion of "FOREVER"

“If I’m careful to choose the right partner, I will never have to divorce.” “I’m not settling for anything but THE ONE.” In many ways, we...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

But... MONEY

“You’ll never travel without me.” “You’ll never be able to get nice things without me.” “You like this home? You’ll never live in a place...