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Jul 14, 2022
1 min

Toxic Positivity

We have learned to have an intolerance for unpleasant truth. In the era of “positive thinking”, we have conveniently learned to excuse...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Are You a Caregiver, Or a Partner?

“You take such good care of him.” “I don’t know what he would do without you.” “I’m so glad you’re in his life to keep him straightened...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
1 min

SUFFERING does not equal LOVE.

“Everyone else is a fucking POSER. I care about you for REAL.” “I won’t be like everyone else who has abandoned you.” We have often...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

What If It's My Fault?

“But what about my part?” “It takes two to create a bad marriage.” “I haven’t always been the perfect partner.” I hear these words often,...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

The Illusion of "FOREVER"

“If I’m careful to choose the right partner, I will never have to divorce.” “I’m not settling for anything but THE ONE.” In many ways, we...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Partnership vs Ownership

“He’s so whipped.” I’ve heard this comment a few times and it always leaves me feeling disturbed. Whenever I have heard this flippant...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
3 min

Love Letter to Yourself

You, Love, deserve the world and more. Every desire. Every heart melting experience. Every passion that lights your soul on fire. Every...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
4 min

Necessary Endings Require Courage

My job is walking women through their winter seasons of life. It’s holding their hands through the grief of letting go and gut wrenching...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Love takes COURAGE.

"But I really love him and I know he loves me.” This is the response I hear, over and over, when women voice concerns and frustrations...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Grieving the LIVING

“He was such a jerk! Just leave him in dust and don’t look back!” “Have you seen what he did to you? WHY do you keep going back?” “You...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Don't Settle For Subpar Standards

“When do I know if I should leave a relationship?” “What if I just need to stick it out for a little bit and it will get better?” “I...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

I Celebrate Hearing NO

I talk a lot about unapologetically identifying what you want and setting the standards required to be in your presence. And, I have...

This. Is. Why. Boundaries. Will. Shake. Your. Very. Core.

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

This. Is. Why. Boundaries. Will. Shake. Your. Very. Core.

“You’re just trying to control me.” “You’re making a big deal out of nothing.” “You’re being so selfish.” “You knew who I was before...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Rigorous Honesty

In my years of being around the AA program, something profound has stuck out to me. They talk of “rigorous honesty”. That people who are...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

The dark side of LOYALTY

"The only way anyone is leaving this marriage is if one of us is dead.” “You are my forever soulmate.” “You are MINE.” “You PROMISED.”...

MAKE A SCENE. It’s what you are here for.

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
1 min

MAKE A SCENE. It’s what you are here for.

"Why can’t I just be quieter?” “Why can’t I just be less intense?” “My laugh is so annoying.” “My stretch marks are so ugly.” “I wish I...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

"Soulmates"

I often see the question “Does anyone believe in soulmates anymore?” And I smile. My understanding of “soulmates” has dramatically...

How can I have empathy AND set boundaries?

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

How can I have empathy AND set boundaries?

“How can I simultaneously care for someone I love, while also prioritizing my own needs?” “How can I stare a loved one in the face who...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022
2 min

Unconditional Love

My misunderstanding of this concept has caused some of the most painful experiences of my life. What I thought it was. What I thought it...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

How to spot a predator

Every time I hear of a good hearted individual who has been exploited, taken advantage of, and preyed upon, I feel a burning and...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

He Deserves More Than Your Pity

Pity Love… Some of you are out there thinking… “I can’t leave because he won’t know what to do without me” “I don’t know what he would do...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

We Have A Problem With Men's Violence

Ahmad Al Aliwi Alissa killed 10 people on March 22, 2021 at a market in Boulder CO. 21 year old male, no criminal record, motivation...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

The Art of Dehumanization

“Anyone who isn’t a Patriot is a Traitor.” “Anyone who supports Trump is a White Supremacist.” “I refuse to unify with THEM.” We are...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

The Illusion of Easy Exits

“There’s always a time to easily exit a relationship. It’s during those bad times that define a true power couple.” I read this comment a...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Let's Talk About Trust

“I don’t know how to learn to trust again.” I hear this OVER and OVER. Then I hear some version of desperately trying to figure out how...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Say You Want A Man Who....

You say you want a man who knows how to treat you well, yet you joke about men being so oblivious and dense they need “training”. You say...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

When You're the Exception

"None of the other women he’s been with could handle him.” “No one has taken the time to love him the way he needs.” “He’s an unruly...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

It's Time We Take Responsibility

When a woman shows up with a black eye, do you look for a reason to excuse his violence? When a woman is embarrassed about the verbal...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

We Fight For Every Woman

My abuser could smell a powerful woman from a mile away. He knew my exposure to her intense, free spirited independence might make me...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Let's Talk About Loyalty

We traditionally see loyalty as a good thing. It’s one of the most POWERFUL values of the “good girl” identity. “I am GOOD because I am...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Love Shouldn't Be Transactional

There are many reasons I have heard women use to justify their own mistreatment. There were many ways I myself justified relationships...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Boundaries

Often when people start to wake up to the idea of boundary setting, it is overwhelming. What boundaries do I set? Am I really allowed to...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Were Created for MORE

You were created for more than having a relationship. Yet, many of us women live as if it is our sole objective. Like we are incomplete...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Settling is Always Based in Fear

“You can’t always get what you want.” “You have to be realistic.” “You just have to take what you can get.” “Better to play it safe.”...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Relationships Require Settling?

My whole life, I have heard people say “relationships require compromise”, “every relationship requires a degree of settling”, and “you...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Stand Tall & Own Your Boundaries

“You’re such a buzz kill.” These were the words used to describe me, after I told a guest substances were not allowed in my home. These...

My Resentment Is One of My Most Profound Gifts

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

My Resentment Is One of My Most Profound Gifts

My resentment is one of my most profound gifts. Yep. I didn’t mistype that. My resentment shows me where I am compromising my standards...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

Let's Talk About Manifestation

“If I just ‘manifest better’ my relationship will improve.” “People around me are abusive because they are a reflection of my inner...

Jillian Aurora

Jul 14, 2022

You Are Worthy of Boundaries

Don’t ever expect people who are taking advantage of you to celebrate your boundaries. They will be the ones who will bring up ALL the...